More than 400,000 women are sexually assaulted each year!
Approximately 85,000 women are raped on average in England and Wales every year!
1 in 5 women (aged 16 – 59) has experienced some form of sexual violence since the age of 16!
44% of victims are under 18!
80% of victims are under 30!
Every 2 minites, someone is assaulted in America.
A United Nations statistical report compiled from government sources showed that more than 250,000 cases of rape or attempted rape were recorded by police annually.
The reported data covered 65 countries.
In many parts of the world, rape is very rarely reported
Due to the extreme social stigma placed on women and even men who have been raped, fear of being disowned by their families, or being subjected to violence like honor killings.
In Afghanistan rape victims can and have been victims of honor killings perpetrated by their families, and on the other hand they can be victimised by the laws of the country: they can be charged with adultery, a crime that can be punishable by death.
Furthermore, they can be forced by their families to marry their rapist.
A woman who was raped by a man, jailed for adultery, gave birth to a child in jail, and was then subsequently pardoned by president Hamid Karzai, and in the end married the man who raped her.
In 2012, Afghanistan recorded 240 cases of honor killings and 160 cases of rape, but the number for both honor killings and rapes is estimated to be much higher.
Sadly, in countries where adultery and/or pre marital sex are illegal, victims of rape can face prosecution under these laws, if there isn’t sufficient evidence to prove a rape in the court.
Even if they can prove their rape case, evidence during investigation may surface showing that they were not virgins at the time of the rape, which, if they are unmarried, opens the door for prosecution.
Countries may or may not criminalise marital rape.
However, even in many countries which do criminalise it, prosecutions for it are exceptionally rare, due to prevailing social views; in many parts of the world the concept is very poorly understood, because sex in marriage is considered an absolute right of the husband, that can be taken with or without the consent of his wife.
The very act of a woman refusing to have sex with her husband is considered unthinkable:
In one survey 74% of women in Mali said that a husband is justified to beat his wife if she refuses to have sex with him.
Rape in particular, is considered the most under-reported violent crime.
The most common reasons given by victims for not reporting rapes are the belief that it is a personal or private matter, and that they fear reprisal from the assailant.
A 2007 government report in England says “Estimates from research suggest that between 75 and 95 percent of rape crimes are never reported to the police.”.
In Bangladesh rape victims are subjected to a “two-finger test” rape investigations.
This test consists in a physical examination of women who report rape during which a doctor inserts two fingers in the woman’s vagina to determine whether the woman is “habituated to sex”.
A survey taken in China asked a group of men if they had ever forced a female to have sex.
22.2% said yes.
9.3% had done so in the past year.
55% of the men who had raped had done so more than once.
9% had raped four or more women.
86% cited sexual entitlement as their motive (the highest percentage in the study)
57% answered that they raped out of boredom.
72.4% experienced no legal consequences.
1.7% had raped another man.
2.2% had participated in gang rape.
25% who had raped reported first doing so as a teenager, the lowest percentage in the study.
53.7% of men and 53.5% of women agreed or strongly agreed with the statement ‘if a woman doesn’t physically fight back, it’s not rape.’
More than 400,000 women are raped in the Democratic Republic of Congo annually.
In Egypt, rape has been carried out publicly.
On 3 July 2013, it was reported that about 91 women were raped and sexually abused in Tahrir Square in 4 days.
By some estimates, the figure was about 169.
In Ethiopia, it is common for a man, working in co-ordination with his friends, to kidnap a girl or woman, sometimes using a horse to ease the escape. The abductor will then hide his intended bride and rape her until she becomes pregnant. As the father of the woman’s child, the man can claim her as his wife. Girls as young as eleven years old are reported to have been kidnapped for the purpose of marriage.
In Ghana, 8% of women reported having been raped by a man in their lifetimes and 5% of men reported having raped a wife or girlfriend.
In Italy, 1999, in an infamous case that gained international attention, the Court of Cassation of Italy declared a man not guilty of the rape of a woman who was wearing tight jeans, claiming that it was impossible to forcibly remove tight jeans “without the collaboration of the person wearing them” if she resists.
The court also equated the removal of the jeans with consent to sexual penetration.
In 2006, the Court of Cassation ruled that a 41-year old man who raped his 14-year-old stepdaughter can seek to have his sentence reduced on mitigating circumstances, due to the fact that the girl had been already sexually active and “since the age of 13 had had many sexual relations with men of every age and it’s right to assume that at the time of the encounter with the suspect her personality, from a sexual point of view, was much more developed than what one might normally expect from a girl of her age”.
UNICEF in Italy stated that the decision “seriously violates human rights and the dignity of a minor.
In Nigeria, A study of students of the Polytechnic, Ibadan found that in their lifetimes 1.7% (2.5% of males and 1.1% of females) had raped and 2.7% (5.3% of males and 0.9% of females) had attempted rape.
Out of a sample of 295 female students from Ebonyi State University Abakaliki in Southeast Nigeria, 36.7% had experienced sexual harassment/victimisation at least once on campus. Of this, 32.4% had been raped (10.8% of the sample)
Nigeria found that 68.3% of the sexually experienced intellectually disabled females reported a history of rape victimisation compared to 2.9% of the sexually experienced non-disabled females.
In pakistan, one of the notable cases, in which Uzma Ayub, a 16 year old girl, was abducted by a soldier and policeman, she was repeatedly raped by several person which included an army official, policemen. Her brother was murdered.
The UN estimates that In Rwanda between 100,000 and 250,000 women were raped during the genocide in 1994.Rape was used as a weapon of war and there are numerous children who were born from these rapes.
Many of the women who were raped were also infected with HIV/AIDS.
In South Africa, more than 67,000 cases of rape and sexual assaults against children reported in 2000, with welfare groups believing that unreported incidents could be up to 10 times higher.
In 2001, a 9-month-old was raped and likely lost consciousness as the pain was too much to bear.
Another 9-month-old baby was raped by six men, aged between 24 and 66, after the infant had been left unattended by her teenage mother.
A 4-year-old girl died after being raped by her father. A 14-month-old girl was raped by her two uncles.
In February 2002, an 8-month-old infant was reportedly gang raped by four men. One has been charged. The infant has required extensive reconstructive surgery. The 8-month-old infant’s injuries were so extensive, increased attention on prosecution has occurred.
A significant contributing factor for the escalation in child abuse is the widespread myth in HIV-ravaged South Africa that having sex with a virgin will cure a man of AIDS.
One in three of the 4,000 women questioned by the Community of Information, Empowerment and Transparency said they had been raped in the past year. More than 25% of South African men questioned in a survey admitted to raping someone; of those, nearly half said they had raped more than one person, according to a new study conducted by the Medical Research Council (MRC).
The humanitarian news organization IRIN claims that an estimated 500,000 rapes are committed annually in South Africa.
A 2010 study led by the government-funded Medical Research Foundation says that in Gauteng province, more than 37 percent of men said they had raped a woman.
Nearly 7 percent of the 487 men surveyed said they had participated in a gang rape.
Among children, a survey found 11% of boys and 4% of girls admitted to forcing someone else to have sex with them while in another survey among 1,500 school children in the Soweto township, a quarter of all the boys interviewed said that ‘jackrolling’, a term for gang rape, was fun.
In 2013 a study of 1991 grade nine boys at 46 secondary schools in Cape Town and Port Elizabeth found that 17.2% had raped.
More than 25% of a sample of 1,738 South African men from the KwaZulu-Natal and Eastern Cape Provinces admitted when anonymously questioned to raping someone; of those, nearly half said they had raped more than one person, according to a non-peer reviewed policy brief issued by the Medical Research Council (MRC).
4.95% had raped or attempted rape in the past year at the time of the survey.
“In South Africa, rape is so common it barely makes the news. The rapes of elderly women and babies are outlined in four-line stories on the inside pages of local newspapers, but most sexual assaults get no public attention.”
An average rape case in Sri Lanka takes 6 to 12 years to be resolved.
ONLY ABOUT 6% OF RAPISTS EVER SPEND A DAY IN JAIL! STOP THE MADNESS!! SHARE THIS BLOG POST AS MANY TIMES AS POSSIBLE!!! CREATE AWRENESS!!!! RAPE IS REAL! RAPE IS VERY VERY REAL!! DON’T WAIT TILL IT HAPPENS TO YOU OR SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU!
References . http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_statistics
Yes, they say no man is an island but we all came into this world alone and we will all leave it alone.
So what do you do when someone you know starts to feel too important, or isn’t adding any reasonable value to your life or if in fact that person is causing you more harm than good?
YOU KICK ‘EM TO THE CURB. How?
#1 DON’T HATE ‘EM, PITY ‘EM!
Everyone will have haters.
Haters are surely going to hate.
They would hate what you wear.
How you walk,what you do, how you talk, blah blah blah…
But since you are the matured person; the bigger person, don’t hate them back, wish them well and pray that some day they have something better to do with their lives.
#2 DON’T BE INSULTIVE
You don’t need to be nasty.
You can get your point across without spewing vile words.
Be polite and respectful.
But be firm.
Simply saying; “Please don’t talk to me” will do the trick.
#3 DELETE! DELETE! DELETE!
Stop picking up their calls; if they still do not get the message pick-up and tell them point blank
“please, stop calling me” and hang up.
Don’t read or respond to their emails.
Block them from social media, instant messaging, facebook, eskimi, 2go, whatsapp, bbm and the likes.
Stop greeting, put your etiquette classes to waste.
Even if they say hi, don’t respond!
And maybe, get an headset or earphones; even if you are not listening to anything and you put them on, the other person would be clueless.
If they approach you in public, just kindly tell them to leave you alone and that you do not want anything to have to do with them, don’t get violent, even if the other person tries to, just walk away.
You have to stand for something or you’ll fall for everything.
Remember why you decided to start ignoring them.
Remember how all the hurtful things they did or said about you.
#5 SMILE, SMILE, SMLILE. 😀
Flaunt your God-given teeth you never know how long you are going to have them.
Plus smiling helps you loose weight!
#6 IGNORE THEM SO HARD THAT THEY DOUBT IF THEY EXIST.
Don’t talk about them with your friends.
Don’t make eye contact with them, not even by accident.
Don’t acknowledge their presence.
Imagine they are invincible like they are all a bunch of shadow walkers from x-men.
#7 GET BUSY.
Learn how to do something, develop a hobby, start taking a course, play a sport, go bowling, skateboarding, ride a bike, start a blog. 😀
Keep yourself occupied so you don’t start wondering what the other person is doing.
#ON A FINAL NOTE
Keep your head high.
Don’t show them that you are afraid of them.
Don’t show that you are affected by them in any way, that will only make them feel important.
Hang out with friends.
Forget all about them.
Show that you are better off without ’em.
#1 WHEN YOU LIVE IN PAST MEMORIES, AND NOT THE PRESENT
“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” – Unknown
If you’re not living in the present you’re living in an illusion of what was.
My advice to you,live in the present,live in acceptance, get over denial, you cannot possibly spend the rest of your life living in the past? Sadly, yes, you can actually, but that would be really depressing! Every moment spent in the past is a moment wasted!
If you worry about what might be, and wonder what might have been, you will ignore what is.” -Unknown
#2 WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP BRINGS YOU MORE PAIN THAN JOY
If your relationship leaves you frustrated/upset/unhappy more often than not, will you stay and bear all the pain?
Stay with someone who makes you feel great. Not the one who’s the reason why your heart breaks.
If someone truly loves you, he/she is never going to intentionally do anything to hurt you. If your partner does, then he/she doesn’t care about you. It makes no sense to stay in a relationship with someone who constantly hurts you. It is totally pointless.
If your partner wants you to mature, to look good for a job interview, or to succeed; t
But when your partner does not like something about you, and selfishly tries to make you change it, through subtle manipulation, outright forceful and annoying bitching, and or through abusive behaviors, there is a big problem!
He/she shouldn’t manipulate you but rather he/she should try to help you.
Sticks And Stones Will Break Your Bones If You Don’t F*cking Pack Up And Leave!
“He loves me, he just has a bad temper.”
“She just doesn’t like it when I do somethings, if I don’t do them, she will surely stop”
“Abuse is totally normal, my dad beat up my mom and they where married for many years”
“It’s not her fault, She does it whenever She is under the influence”
Stop Physical Abuse Before It Starts? How? Simple! Answer these questions honestly!
Does your partner like to gain total control over you?
Does your partner try to instill fear in you?
Does your partner intentionally make you feel guilt, shame, and intimidate you?
Does your partner threaten to hurt you/kill you or hurt those around you?
Do you constantly have to watch what you say and do in order to avoid your partner flaring up?
Do you feel afraid of your partner most of the time?
Do you feel that whatever you do is never good enough for your partner?
Do you believe that you deserve to be abused, hurt or mistreated?
Does your partner humiliate or yell at you?
Does your partner ignore or shut you off when you want to share your opinions or comments?
Does your partner blame you for his/her own abusive behavior?
Does your partner see you as his/her property or a booty call, rather than as a person?
Does your partner threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
Does your partner force you to have sex?
Does your partner act excessively jealous and possessive?
Does your partner control where you go, what you do, who you talk to?
Does your partner keep you from seeing your friends or family?
Does your partner usually flare up whenever a person of the opposite sex calls your phone?
Does your partner unreasonably accuses you of being unfaithful all the time?
Does your partner say. things like, "If I can't have you then no one can."?
If you have answered yes to all or majority of these questions, then baby RUN!!
Run faster than your legs can get you!!
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