Lust vs Love; The Difference Isn’t So Clear

These days love is usually misconceived as passion.

The wrong information always shown by the media, tells us that once you feel a burning desire for someone, you are automatically “in love.”

Sorry to burst your bubble,but it just means you want to get in that persons pants. In fact studies have shown through MRI scans that the brain of a person in LUST is like a brain of a person on drugs.

When you are in LUST, it’s like wearing rose-coloured glasses, everything he/she does or says or doesn’t do or doesn’t say is perfect.

Your sex hormones make you see what you hope the other person will be or what you need them to be–rather than seeing that person for who he/she really is. To you the person has no flaws at all.

These days love is usually misconceived as passion.

1. Am I only enchanted by that person’s looks and body?

2. Am I only interested in having sex?

3. Do I ever want to just talk and have a conversation with this person?

4. Do i always want to leave immediately after sex?

5. Do I like to just cuddle with this person?

6. Do i like having long talks on the phone or in person?

If you have answered honestly to these questions, you should know by now, if you guys are LOVErs or LUSTers.These days love is usually misconceived as passion.

The Sign That You Are Healed Of Lust

The physical attraction starts to disappear,you might see the same person you where in cloud nine over and wonder what you ever saw in him/her.
Most people don’t realize it until it is too late, but luckily for you; you stumbled on the blog post.

All this doesn’t necessarily mean LUST is the worst feeling on earth. In fact LUST and LOVE sometimes work hand-in-hand.

Lust can even lead to love.


1. Do you like spending quality time together other than in the bedroom?

2. Do you get lost in conversations?

3. Do you talk for hours and forget that time is passing?

4. Do you honestly listen to each other’s feelings?

5. Do you honestly want to make each other happy?

6. Do you motivate each other to be a better person?

7. Do you introduce him/her to your friends and family unashamed?

Well if you have answered yes to all of these then, BABY YOU ARE IN <3! 😀 CONGRATULATIONS!!


Your thoughts or comment would be nice…

qoute of the day

“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth.”
Jess C. Scott, The Intern


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How To Know if You Are In A Relationship or Just Passing Time

Are you having trouble with your ‘soul mate’?
Do you have doubts about your relationship status?
Well you have come to the right place!

First of all settle down and think about your relationship with this person. Do you genuinely want to be with this person? Or does your partner genuinely want to be with you? Are you with this person because he/she has a lot of money? Or is it the other way round? Or is it because he is so handsome? Or she is so beautiful? Or is it just because the sex is really good? I am not saying that there is anything wrong with having a relationship with someone who has money or is good looking or great in bed. The point I’m trying to make is, if somehow your partner was to loose what you desire in him/her would you still want to be in a relationship with that person? If your very rich boyfriend lost all his money, would you still love him the same way you did when he was rich? Or if your very beautiful girlfriend, had an accident and her face got disfigured would you still love her? You’ll know in your heart if you’re with “the one” or just “the one I’m passing time with.” Apply the same principle to whatever it is that you desire in your partner and answer your questions truthfully. If you believe that you’d stay with this person and love him or her no matter what,and your partner would do the same without second guessing it, Congratulations!! You have yourself a relationship!! But if you are sceptical, or you have doubts about it, or you are certain that you wouldn’t love he/she the same way, I suggest that you don’t waste your time and your partner’s time any further, you guys are approaching a dead end. If you are still not sure, ask yourself these questions;
Do i find myself constantly attracted to other people?

Do I fantasize about dating another person?
Am I in this relationship because I don’t want to be alone?

Am I in a relationship with my partner because I don’t think I can do any better?

Am I afraid to introduce my partner to my family members and my friends?

If you have answered yes to any or all of these questions, Baby wake up and walk away…


Quote Of The Day

“If you think you are beaten, you are. If you think you dare not, you. Don’t. If you’d like to win, but think you can’t. It’s most certain you won’t. Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man, but soon or late, the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.”

Quote Of The Day

“If you think you are beaten, you are. If you think you dare not, you. Don’t. If you’d like to win, but think you can’t. It’s most certain you won’t. Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man, but soon or late, the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.”

you are beautiful

Yes! You are amazing! You are beautiful! Your mind is awesome! If he/she can’t see that, then that person doesn’t deserve you and it is just plain senseless to waste your time on someone who doesn’t worth it!
Stay with someone who will always be yours, no matter what, someone who loves you for you. Someone who shows you how special you are. Makes you love life, who points you in the right direction. Someone who has your back when everyone else doesn’t. And stay happy.


“Very few people do this any more. It’s too risky. First of all, it’s a hell of a responsibility to be yourself. It’s much easier to be somebody else or nobody at all.” Sylvia Plath

Oscar Wilde once said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”

As funny as this might seem, it’s a basic truth.
However, how can you be yourself if you don’t know, understand, and accept yourself first?

Think about what kinds of things you would or wouldn’t like to do, and act accordingly. Find out through trial and error.
That doesn’t mean you should go and do something illegal or morally wrong, all in the name of ‘finding yourself.’
You can take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them so that you do not let such tests define you.

Forget about the past.

“You can not move to the next chapter of your life, if you don’t turn the page.” Unknown.

You move farther and farther away from self-realisation if you keep fixating on the past.

Instead of spending the rest of your life trying to still be that person from the past; rather be that someone who is still you, but grows with the passing of each day.

Grow; to improve and to become wiser.

Forgive yourself for past errors and past behaviours that you’re not so proud of.

Accept that everyone makes mistakes and bad choices and that they’re all in the past, understand that you can’t change the past but you can try your best too make sure it doesn’t happen again.

Get Rid Of People That Don’t Matter

People that do not believe in change. People that expect you to live your life through their expectations of you. The “you Should…”
“you ought…” and the “you Have-to…” people.

These are the people that are incapable of taking on new ideas, learning from others, or growing.

Growth in every new stage of our lives is an essential part of being true to ourselves and to being emotionally healthy and whole.

Try Not To Care So Much

Stop caring about how people see you. Some of them will like you and some of them won’t. It’s almost always impossible to be yourself when you’re caught up in constantly wondering:

“Do they think I’m nice?”
“Does he think I’m fat?”
“Do they think I’m a SLUT?”
“Am I good enough for them?”
“Am I clever enough to be friends with them?”

“If you end up with a boring miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it.” Frank Zappa

It’s impossible to please everyone or for everyone to like you. It’s simple logic, if you change yourself so a person or group of people like you, another person or group may not like you, and you go on and on repeating the vicious cycle trying to please everyone.

When you could be building up your talents and strengths you’d be too busy being a people-pleaser.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said once, “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

Don’t get me wrong. This doesn’t mean that no one’s opinion in life matters though. Just be weary of opinions from people who could steer you down the wrong path, even those from people who mean well.

Don’t Lie To Yourself.

We’re all imperfect.

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.” Marilyn Monroe

Be honest; but don’t beat yourself up;
There is a clear difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the things you say to yourself ‘cus you are what you think you are.

Say things to yourself like; “I may not be a size 10, but I am so damn Beautiful.”

Calm Down.

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” Maya Angelou

Stop worrying about all the bad things that could happen. So what if you fall flat on your face in a social gathering? You get back up, laugh over it and stand tall.

Be Unique

“Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.” Judy Garland

Stop comparing yourself to others. If you’re always striving to be someone other than yourself, you’ll never be truly happy.

By comparing yourself with others; you make them your mirror, you give them way too much importance than they deserve.

Love yourself as you are, embrace every single flaw you have.

Never stop looking for your own strengths.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson


Where am I?

Don’t worry I’m still alive and still on planet earth.

So I received a few mails, tweets e.t.c from my beloved readers asking me if all was well, if I’m okay and that they were anxiously awaiting my next post. A lot happened towards the year 2013 that hindered me from blogging.
But I’m back, and that’s all that truly matters. I am beyond excited for what 2014 is going to bring!

That being said, Merry christmas and Happy new year. Because I never had the chance to tell you, but it is never to late. I’m still going to be taking it easy with Infovinit for a while, until I get fully back on my feet. So please bare with me.
And that’s pretty much it! Thank you to all who’ve asked about me and if I’m okay. I’m good 🙂 wish you all the best. like me on facebook



the truth about men.. a repost of a repost

I just had to share this. Stumbled on this on

the truth about men.. a repost

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. 
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending… Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage… Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals. Look for someone complimentary…
not supplementary.

Dating is fun… Even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes… When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says… You should know that: You’re the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he’ll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he’s not the only one. They’re all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts… ❤